Saturday, September 24, 2011

Concentrating on being who you really are vs. who you think you are

I have been taking a free poetry class every Thursday night through the organization I work for. We offer free dance, music, vocal, and poetry classes to the community and as employees, I get to sit in on any class I like. Well, this weeks assignment in class we had to write about being the person we are instead of the person we are trying to be. Have you ever really thought about that? I would say more than half of us in this world are pretending to be something we are not.

Growing up, I had a moment that I wanted to be like everyone else. I wanted to dress the same, tell jokes, treat woman the same as my counter parts. It felt good for a moment to be fitting in with everyone and getting attention from the females but something within me just said that this isn't right. My gut feeling inside was telling me that something wasn't just right. The moment in live I will never forget was when I tried to talk to a female and I looked like a complete block boy. For those of us that don't what that is, white tee shirt jean shorts, and some timberland's. I proceeded to say come here shawty and she looked at my like I was crazy. She proceeded to tell me that this is not even you. You don't even have that swag. I am saying to myself, what is she talking about? I have seen guys do this all the time and walk away with the female. She continued to say, be who you are and stop pretending.

I use to think that if you treat females a certain way that they would show you attention. I was so mad when she turned me down but from that day on, it seemed like a huge light started to shine on me. I knew inside my heart that I was a perfect gentleman and that I should never address a female as shawty. Growing up in my household, my dad was a perfect gentleman to my mother and at first, that't they way I would treat females. Opening car doors, buying flowers for no occasion at all, and just being very supportive. When I acted like this, I never got the attention of girls because they thought I was soft and not a real man. Well the girl that turned me down to this day is still a good friend of mine and she told me long ago that my day will come. Girls just don't see what they are missing now but when they get older, they are going to get tired of dealing with the jerks and want to deal with a guy like me. Just wait and see.

I fought being who I was on they inside to get things that I wanted or that i felt society would accept me. I am a gentleman, romantic, hold doors open, buy flowers just because, preppy dressed guy and I am not afraid to say it or be it. One of the worse things you can do to yourself is be something you are not. Lets stop pretending who we think we are and start accepting who we really are. Don't be afraid to let your true colors shine through. 

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Finding your purpose and passion

Some people spend their whole lifetime trying to find out what your purpose is. Some people run from it, some people accept it, some people just flat out ignore it. I for one have found my purpose in life and I believe that I have been placed on this earth to help people. Growing up, I realized that I always wanted to help my mom and dad do things around the house. I always was the helpful person in school to my classmates and later on in my lifetime now, my friends use to call me Dr. Phil because I would help them out in their relationships. Never could figure out why I never followed my own advice in that department but that's another topic.

Just looking at all the jobs I have had, I was always in a position to help people. Being a cashier for the PPA, helping customers and giving them advice on if they should fight boots, tickets, and towing charges. Running Arcadia University's Mail room, making suggestions on certain things to help the school save money. Working for Enterprise and helping customer pick out the right car for that important trip or business meeting they had to attend. Now I am working for a non profit org and helping people in every way I can. I love every minute of it. I might not have liked the hours at some of these jobs but I always felt fulfilled going home knowing that I have helped someone in some way every single day.

As long as I am helping people, I think my purpose is being met every single day. Have you ever thought about your purpose, your passion, your desires? Have you ignored them because you are afraid? Take time you listen to your heart, your mind because it is always telling you something. Don't run away from your passion or purpose, accept it and see how much your life changes